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Raising a Well Adjusted Child

How can you raise a well-adjusted child?  First, let’s start with a definition.  For the purposes of this article, let’s define well-adjusted to mean healthy, happy, balanced, and self-confident.  Think about the kind of adulthood you want your child to grow to have: surely you want that adulthood to be well-adjusted.  Think also about how peaceful your household will be with a well-adjusted child (as opposed to a child that is not well-adjusted).  With these in mind, how do you raise a child who is well-adjusted?


Ensure that your child receives proper rest; nutrition; exercise; and medical, dental, and optical care.  Speak with your child about the importance of these so that your child can grow to make them priorities of his own.  Lead by example.


Spend time with your child.  Nurture your child: let him know that you love him.  Show interest in his thoughts, feelings, skills, and values.  Praise him when he does something well; redirect him with love when he does not. Be consistent with him.  You can judge a child’s behavior to be unacceptable, but never judge the child himself.  Keep your promises.  Help him understand how he fits in the “bigger picture”: teach him that he is part of very large and complex social and environmental systems and that he has responsibility to be a positive contributor to these systems.  Volunteer with him in service to non-profit organizations in your area; reinforce your “bigger picture” message by parent-child volunteerism at a local animal shelter, soup kitchen, etc.  Speak with him about the pros and cons of things . . . help him see that very few things (and arguably nothing) is all-bad or all-good.  When bad things happen, help him see the good things that are involved in the bad situation.  This will teach him resiliency and optimism.  When good things happen, help him guard against negative consequences that may result.  This will teach him humility and prudence.  Lead by example.


Teach your child about balancing the needs of others with his own needs, wants versus needs, short-term and long-term perspectives, etc.  Lead by example.


Teach your child to assess accurately his strengths and weaknesses and keep them in perspective (i.e., no strength renders him above accountability, no weakness renders him unlovable).  Teach him to find ways to play to his strength and minimize (or at least work around) his weaknesses.  Teach him to use his strengths productively (for example, see volunteerism above).  Lead by example.

By following the tips above, you can raise a well-adjust child.  The benefits will be yours as well as your child’s.

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