Support for New Moms
Being a new mom is a tough gig. Your body has just been through a major ordeal. You need to rest and recuperate. But baby is brand new and needs you. After all, baby can’t feed herself, bathe herself, or do most anything for herself at this age. Additionally, baby wakes up every two hours during the night. So, at a time when you most need to rest, you’re getting the least rest of your life. Like anyone else who is sleep-deprived, your emotions may get the better of you from time to time, and that’s perhaps even more true because of the hormonal changes that your body is going through right now. You start to wonder if you’re the only mom who feels the way you feel. How do other moms handle this? How can you cope? The answer lies in your connections with other moms. If you can talk to other moms who have been there and done that, you can hear that you aren’t the only one who has been where you are. You can learn successful coping techniques from someone who truly understands your situation. You can receive empathy from someone who has shared your pain. But how can you meet these other moms?
Tap your existing resources. Call your mom or other relative or friend who has children. Open a line of dialogue about the experience of being a new mom.
Connect with moms one-on-one at your church, synagogue, or other place of worship.
Connect with moms one-on-one at your OB/GYN’s office. (Strike up a conversation with ladies sitting in the waiting room.)
Take your baby on a stroller walk around the park. Sit on a park bench with baby and enjoy nature. Strike up conversations with other moms who are doing the same.
Join baby-and-me groups or take baby-and-me classes.
Join new mom support groups that may be offered by:
*Your place of worship
*Your employer (here the term would be “affinity group” rather than “support group”)
All of life’s major events, no matter how wonderful they are, can be stressors. Baby is a blessing, and you are grateful to have baby in your life; that blessing and your gratitude do not mean that you are not going through a life-changing transition, physically, emotionally, and socially, to name a few. No matter how you choose to connect with other mothers, it is important that you do form those connections. They will help you cope through the major transition that is the birth and first months of your baby’s life.