What to Do When the Kids that You Nanny for Start to Call You Mom
It’s a common occurrence. It can be hurtful to parents and uncomfortable for all. The kids you are nannying for call you mom. How can you best handle it when this occurs?
This situation needs to be handled with grace and tender loving care. It’s a sticky situation. Your response will need to consider the feelings of the kids (not making them feel rejected) and the parents (not making them feel replaced). What follows are some suggested responses.
- “I’m not your mom. Your fabulous mom is at work and can’t wait to get home to cuddle you. I’m your nanny, and I can’t wait to cuddle you right now.”
- “I’m not your mom: I’m your nanny. Would it be easier for you if you called me “Aunty Kara”?
- (with humor) “Wow! When did I get promoted from nanny to mom? I’d be thrilled to be your mom, but your actual mom may not like the idea very much.”
Whatever your chosen response, ensure that you are validating the closeness of your relationship with the kids for whom you nanny while also validating the central role of parents in the lives of their kids.