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Keeping kids safe on the Internet

Since I run an Internet business, I’m interested in the whole online world. And since I’m a mom, I’m very interested in keeping kids safe. So I thought I’d share some information I’ve gathered about how parents and nannies can help kids stay out of trouble when they’re online. Parents need to get involved and set parameters. Nannies need to know what the rules are and enforce them.

First, a few general recommendations-

• Learn about the Internet. Let’s face it, our kids know more about computers and the Internet than we do. So if you’re not online-savvy, try to get up to speed. Maybe your local library, school or community center offers a course you can take.

• Get involved. Spend time with your kids when they’re online. Let them get used to the idea that you’re going to be looking over their shoulder – a lot. Your kids’ best insurance is your involvement.

• Find out what you can do. Educate yourself about parental control tools that can keep your kids safe. Check with your Internet Service Provider to see what they offer. Ask about “blocking and filtering” software at a computer store or consumer electronics store.

Now, let’s talk about email. It’s great that our kids can communicate instantly with friends, relatives and teachers. It’s not so great that they can communicate with creeps and predators.

So…

• Make sure you know how to access your kid’s email account and their password. They’ll howl, but you’ve got to protect them.

• Talk with your kids about who they’re meeting online. It’s another way you need to stay involved.

• Set a rule that your kids never arrange an in-person meeting without you present. And enforce it.

And how about surfing the web? The web is an unprecedented galaxy of information. And an unprecedented source of danger.

So…

• Keep the computer in a family area, so you can better monitor your kids’ web browsing.

• Spend time online with your kids. Find out which sites they spend time on.

• Teach your kids to immediately end any online experience that makes them feel uncomfortable and to tell you about it.

• Establish an atmosphere of trust with your kids by not blaming them for uncomfortable online experiences. Keep the lines of communication open.

Finally, chatting. Chat rooms have their own risks.

So…

• Accompany your kid in chat rooms until she learns your rules.

• Teach your kids never to give out personal information – name, address or anything else that could identify them.

• Explain that people are not always who they say they are.

• Limit your kids to certain chat rooms, or block out chat entirely.

In a way, it’s sad that we have to take such precautions. But on the other hand, that’s our job – whether we’re parents or nannies – to keep our kids safe.

Until next time (hopefully with a more upbeat topic)…

Candi

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2 comments to Keeping kids safe on the Internet

  • Virginia Ray

    I would also like you to caution parents about the dangers of posting photos of children on the web. These are accessible by anyone, anywhere and what can be done with photoshop is unbelieveable. The National Center for Child Exploitation recognizes this as a major threat to our children.

    It also a good idea to check out your nannie’s My Space account and what you find there will shock you. My exhusband and I are currently in the middle of a horrendous issue involving a nanny who illegally posted photos of our child on My Space. The excerpt that I have posted on anpother another site is below.

    I hope that I can warn others about two bad nannies in the greater Chicagoland area.

    My exhusband employed Kristy Nicole Valdes in Aug, 2007 to care for my 9 year old daughter when she is in his custody. My child would report to me that the nanny was constantly on My Space. She even assisted my child to navigate about on My Space, which is clearly against their polciies. After discovering that she was posting photos of my child on her My Space, I requested that Kristy Nicole take them down. She refused and turned her My Space to, “private”. Of course, this is not really effective. In July, 2008 I discovered that Kristy Nicole had posted 25 additional photos of my child. I contactd The National Center for Child Exploitation. They sent a statement detailing the dangers of posting photos of children on the internet. I forwarded this to the nanny and my exhusbnd. She once again refused to remove the photos and apparently, protested that it her was her right to post these pictures with no regard for my child’s safety.She then lied to my exhusbnd and said that they were removed but they were not. I contacted the Parental Control unit at My Space. They were quite alarmed by this and escalated the case and they removed the photos and also the entry where she had posted my child’s full name and location. She continues to be defiant in charging that she has been “stalked” and that people should, “grow up” and “free time should be spent geteing a life”. She also claims to find this, “amusing”. Strangely enough, on the day that I contacted the Illinois DCFS, she decided to take a vacation to Florida.

    The moral of this story is please thoroughly investigate the background of anyone that you hire to care for your children. I would ask if they have My Space or better yet, get their email address and then search My Space. You will likely see a very different person than the one standing in front of you at the interview. This girl is currently listed on Nannies4hire.com seeking employment.

  • Virginia Ray

    I hope that I can warn others about two bad nannies in the greater Chicagoland area.

    My exhusband employed Kristy Nicole Valdes in Aug, 2007 to care for my 9 year old daughter when she is in his custody. My child would report to me that the nanny was constantly on My Space. She even assisted my child to navigate about on My Space, which is clearly against their polciies. After discovering that she was posting photos of my child on her My Space, I requested that Kristy Nicole take them down. She refused and turned her My Space to, “private”. Of course, this is not really effective. In July, 2008 I discovered that Kristy Nicole had posted 25 additional photos of my child. I contactd The National Center for Child Exploitation. They sent a statement detailing the dangers of posting photos of children on the internet. I forwarded this to the nanny and my exhusbnd. She once again refused to remove the photos and apparently, protested that it her was her right to post these pictures with no regard for my child’s safety. I contacted the Parental Control unit at My Space. They wer quite alarmed by this and escalated the case and they removed the photos and also the entry where she had posted my child’s full name and location. She continues to be defiant in charging that she has been “stalked” and that people should, “grow up” and “free time should be spent geting a life”. She also claims to find this, “amusing”. Strangely enough, on the day that I contacted the Illinois DCFS, she decided to take a vacation to Florida.

    The moral of this story is please thoroughly investigate the background of anyone that you hire to care for your children. I would ask if they have My Space or better yet, get their email address and then search My Space. You will likely see a very different person than the one standing in front of you at the interview. I also present for your education the My Space of a woman named Onna. She is Kristy Nicole’s roommate and both of these girls are listed on Nannies4hire.com seeking employment.

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